Posts by troubled mind

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has anyone lied to the two elders

by wasted in

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just a ?

as ive got cobe and my daughters fil coming round nxt wk to grill me, first time 2 of the blighters have turned up together so im expecting the inevitable.

by the way not been to a meeting in 2.5 yrs after 35 yrs in the b/s,and just wondering how much they pressure to get the answers they want.

troubled mind

When they began asking questions that I knew if answered could be considered "not following Jehovah's Witness Beliefs" , I just told them I would not answer personal questions about my life . Then I repeated my personal life was none of their business since I no longer attended the hall . (I had not been to a meeting in over four yrs ) Which is true ,they are not suppose to purposely go after someone no longer associating with the congregation . Try their tricks on them by answering questions with a question and never give a straight answer !

You will need to repeat the same words over and over to them before they are able to grasp the concept that you no longer answer to them . The only power they possess is what we bestow upon them .

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need help looking for a quote "does not harbor/hold private beliefs/ideas"

by Aussie Oz in

i am darned if i can find it in all my files!

i saw it, saved it, lost it.. not in an elders manual, not in letters to elders as far as i can see.. but i am pretty sure the wording was close to my title wording.. any takers???.

oz.

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saving

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Memorial

by TOTH in

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the memorial is back and i know i am going to be harassed into taking my father in law to it.

i refused last year and i have every intention of not going this year too.

it is just so frustrating to me that he has a pioneer for a supposed wife who can take all the other sisters to doctor appointments and shopping and gets high praise for this by the congregation even as she neglects her sick husband.

troubled mind

It is HER responsibility ! You should not feel shamed into doing it at all . Let another Witness come and drive him it is their little party not yours .

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Update on my son...

by diana netherton in

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first of all, thank you everyone for your advice.

some of it was a bit harsh,.

but it made me scrutinize myself a bit more..but here is the outcome....and i .

troubled mind

You are a great Mom ,we learn right along with our kids sometimes .

So happy for your son ! What a great experience for him ,and in no time he will be so happy he made the right decision . Just think how this will help him the next time he needs to make a big decision ,it is all building blocks isn't it ? He just made a huge step into manhood .

Mom's rock !

I have three son's and they still call to discuss major life choices with me . I am more of a sounding board than anything just trying to support what ever they are attempting to do . The hardest time of my parental life was hearing one of my sons struggling from thousands of miles away ....worried and scared he had made a major move mistake ....all I could do is remind him, that is what life is about ,taking chances and going for it ! Thankfully he gave his choice time and it has worked out just fine .

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The elders want to see me also

by MsGrowingGirl20 in

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i mentioned a few times,that in terms of making my time for the past few months have been really difficult.simply because i cant teach something i don't fully believe...so my service has gone down,i used to comment a lot--haven't done that in a while----meeting attendance like normal but now i don't stay back after...or come early...or help with cleaning..... .

so some weeks ago the cobo asked me a completely irrelevant and in no way helpful question---"you did't think that i notice how upset you look these days----that's not a fruitage of god's spirit!".

yeah so today he saw me and asked me a series of question....all which i gave really short answers to...long story short--he says that he would like for me to meet wih the rest of the elders after memorial........ .

troubled mind

Tell them your periods have been really horrible the past few months !!!!! Give them lots of gory details .... such as how you have been having horrendous cramps ,heavy flow ,bloating ,PMS......ask them , 'How would you like to go door to door not knowing if you need a fresh pair of panties by the next stop ?' .......

This should make them leave you alone for awhile ...hope I helped

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